Tuesday, 28 May 2013

Donate to Dildology: Toxic Toys No MORE!!!

 "So what exactly are these things I've been putting in my most precious of regions made of?" you ask. When it comes to partners these days, most of us (women especially) are meticulous about cleanliness and safety. I cringe when I see porn without condoms. Me? I may be a dirty girl - I'm known to wash my crotch several times a day in lew of a shower, but I always put condoms over my toys - even my silicone toys . I'm going to assume that you aren't versed in sex toy material safety a la the edenfantasys safety scale. I started my sex toy education in an adult retail brick and mortar a couple of years ago. Before that the only real toys I had owned were the simple hard plastic dial base kind of various sizes. One of the first things that they taught me was that silicone was better and that phalates (which apparantly 'used to be' in jelly toys ) were bad. It took me awhile to understand that 'silicon' without an e was not 'silicone' and even longer to get why some packages were not labeled at all.  It wasn't until after I got laid off  and begun reviewing for Edenfantasys that I learned the specifics about material safety. I thought that porosity was all that mattered and that it was all about avoiding the spread of STIs. Many many bladder infections later I finally clued in that bacteria was making its way from my anus into my vagina and infecting my urethra. Instantly all of those recurring yeast infections made sense as well. 
I am an average reviewer among those of us that write a thorough written review, but if I do say do myself I excel in video reviews (lol they WILL eventually make it onto this blog I guarantee it!!!) and became so used to the spiel about silicone (latex and phthalates free, hypoallergenic blah blah blah) that I begin to sound like a spokesperson. 

Once I discovered blogs like that of Dangerous Lilly I read about the flame test. Basically, the premise is (or was) that silicone - the elite material that we want all of our toys made of (other than glass/ceramic/treated wood or steel) does not burn when it comprises 100% of a productduct. Silicone blends- which is what we are trying to catch along with blatant substitutes, melt and burst into flame whereas pure silicone simply leaves a bit of ash but remains otherwise unharmed even after prolonged exposure to flame. For a long time we felt that this was a fail safe. I even caught a few so called 'silicone' products from cal ex (like the 'silicone island cock rings') that I applied this test to myself that failed miserably- cooking just like plastic, although it was obvious to me just from looking at the cock rings that they weren't silicone. This isnt always the case. Silicone comes in all different textures and opacities and since we have zero- yes you read right ZERO regulations on sex toys and packaging there's not a lot we can do to ensure that we are safe. The other crap that ends up in toys has 2 main results #1 a permeable toy that sucks up bacteria, encourages transmission of present STIs and transfers fungus. #2 TOXICITY!!!! can you believe that pthalates are carcinogenic, cause birth defects and more immediately rashes, burning and irritation? It is not just you! You don't need an allergy to be affected and even if you did, you should be able to rely on a product that goes inside of your body to be safe. Well the thing is, most sex toy manufacturers and in turn consumers, cannot afford all the time or money it would take to pass stringent tests to be FDA approved medical devices- so our beloved dildos and vibes end up classified as novelties. Novelty to me means a product that is not made for any serious purpose- just for fun, has no real use. Novelty to the law makers means 'we cannot be responsible for this if you put in anywhere inside of you'. So um, just buy it show it to your friends and all have a good laugh at the silly penis shaped $150 object? Well besides the fact that I take my orgasms very seriously and they definitely come from things I stick inside my body, I do not laugh when my crotch burns.  I must admit that though once upon a time I was fond of brush handles and candle sticks, I now absolutley love my Tantus and my We-vibes and my Fun Factorys (speaking of Fun Factory, my beloved Ocean has finally rid herself after 6 months of the bled dye she picked up from a Cal Ex Lia vibe resting on her overnight). Companies such as these are generally regarded as safe, but how can we be sure? After all, until the early-mid 2000's we were devouring jelly toys FULL of cancer causing, allergy inducing phthalates as fast as we could scream "OH GOD DOC JOHNSON YOU ARE THE KING!!!!" 
Well........Join the original sex toy reviewer/blogger obsessed with making the sex toy industry accountable, Dangerous Lilly, along with Crista Ann and XVO on www.Dildology.org- a brand new, non-profit organization dedicated to acquiring random samples of sex toys from manufacturers worldwide and putting them through actual proper laboratory tests to determine their exact chemical make-up.

from their website: 
 "We will:
  • accept monetary donations.
  • accept product donations from third-party retail stores and wholesalers.
  • purchase products from third-party retail stores.
  • choose products to test based on community feedback.
  • send products to accredited labs for testing.
  • compare the material composition of products to the manufacturers’ claims.
  • share the results of lab tests with manufacturers.
  • record the results of the lab tests in our wiki.
  • make our wiki available to the public.
  • provide other educational resources to the public.

We will not:

  • accept product donations directly from manufacturers.
  • test second-hand products – only those acquired directly from retail stores and wholesalers.
  • test any product manufactured more than one year ago.
  • publish opinions about products or manufacturers – only facts.
  • falsify data, for any reason.
  • suppress or fail to publish the results of any test."
So I guess by now you understand that I am trying to help Dildolgy raise money- One of the main purposes of my blog is to help people make informed decisions to buy the best and most appropriate  accessories for their sex lives (and of course to share my juicy Tales from The Trade) well this is a continuation of that and a way for you to join in our sex toy revolution. Dildology has some great incentives for your donations including coupon codes, stickers, t-shirts and recognition- hell if you are rich and generous enough you may even get to see them naked!!! The full list of incentives can be found here .
I believe that not mentioned on that page, but still being offered is a special package directly from Dangerous Lilly herself for a personal consultation.
I apologise for this late post- I'm still struggling with tech stuff- teaching myself as I go but now I can sleep more soundly knowing I've contributed to this great cause- now onto parabens and glycerin.......

please read other bloggers posts on Dildology/toxic toys here

Monday, 27 May 2013

Sinful Sunday week 111

Sinful SundayMy first Sinful Sunday submission 
Untitled tittilation 
I had this pic taken last fall when I was 30lbs heavier and bragging about how my boobs looked half my age. My smirk is due to finally being able to satisfy what I call 'cock curiousity' with the strap on between my legs. This was my real intro to pegging- I made it look obviously aged because of how much time seems to have passed since then and how aged I feel now that my chest has deflated back to an A cup.

Click on the Sinful Sunday button to share your submissions and see what others have posted.


Wednesday, 22 May 2013


Okay so a big thankyou to the group of you who have been following this fledgling blog as it does its best to drag itself along and have enough confidence to keep going and keep trying despite all of the set backs. THINGS ARE TURNING AROUND!!!!
I have found someone that I work really well with that is helping me actually be productive!! My own domain (www.sexualitysanctuary.com) has been purchased for 4 years and hosting is setup etc etc! Looks like realistically this should be a decent site in the near future!
I am so frickin excited. This time I'm keeping it fairly simple- no promises of 10 reviews on day 1 and 20 different pages- that's what got me nowhere last time, biting off more than I could chew. It will debut with a written and videos reviews section, sales and giveaways, my toy box and TFTT. Then I will begin some serious networking and prove that I really am a great  reviewer and decent writer. I have around 250 toys and a sex life that is active daily so lets get to it!!!
Thanx again for sticking around everyone and don't forget the Spicy Subcriptions giveaway one post back! Thought I'd add a spicy shot just for fun!- Julie with dreamgirl lingerie, sportsheets corset harness and sportsheets sedeux flare dildo 

Saturday, 18 May 2013

Spicy Subscriptions is Running an Awesome Giveaway!

There are several 'sex toy box of the month' subscription services and considering that the adult product industry is pretty much divided into three groups (luxury, decent and complete useless maybe even dangerous crap) you are not likely going to get a good deal with most of them. In fact I can see a whole lot of waste in some of those boxes.

Well after watching several videos from Spicy Subscriptions on their Pinterest Page I have decided that these particular ones are comprised of some pretty great stuff. In fact I didn't see anything that would go straight in the garbage!

I love the idea of samples and I always found they were a bit expensive to buy (a clitoral gel sample in a brick and mortar is over $5). When I added up what I know the items I saw cost I got a number higher than the box total before I had even finished adding. Add this to my opinion that their buyer must have quite good product knowledge and the surprise factor and you have a pretty good investment! Certainly would make a fabulous gift and takes the guess work out if you are new to adult products.

Want to know more about Spicy Subscriptions- their products, box choices, shipping etc? Check out the FAQ
At http://spicysubscriptions.com/faq

The Awesome Deal

This month Spicy Subscriptions is running on a contest and giveaway. The contest is for the bloggers and other people who collect the most Rafflecopter entries. We can win boxes and products!!

The giveaway is for anyone who likes their Facebook page and follows them on twitter and Pinterest. You can win a three month Deluxe Box Subscription- the first of which is 50 Shades Of Grey themed.

To Enter

Just follow the link below and click follow a few times! Couldn't be easier! Entries are only open till thurs the 23rd of May.

Click Here For Spicey Subscriptions Prizes!

By the way, you need to 'like' their Facebook page here !

BONUS: codes for Spicey Subscriptions merchandise:
  • "10off" on all monthly subscriptions (10% off first box)
  • "get1499" for Premium 4 month subscription ($14.99 for first box)
  • "get1999" for Deluxe 4 month subscription ($19.99 for first box)
These are limited time only and will be on until 48 hours after the give-away. 

Good luck everyone and don't forget to follow me too!!!

Thursday, 16 May 2013

Dildology- making the sex toy industry accountable and update

Hi everyone! I wanted to update you on what's happening with my site. Edenfantasys is undergoing some major changes and I'm honestly unsure as to whether the video program will even still be in existence. Either way I will still be turning this into a predominantly video based review site (as well as my tales from the trade stories). The reason it has taken so long (other than my insanely bad habit of procrastinating) is because I have had major tech issues. I finally found the right person to help and we are returning to my own domain. In the meantime I have the privilege of participating in Dangerous Lilly's fundraiser blog hop for www.dildology.org 30 bloggers are writing posts on their experiences and/or knowledge of toxic toys and lack of regulations in the sex toy industry in order to raise money to help make the sex toy industry accountable. Dildology is a non affiliated, unbiased, grass roots • organization  that has begun testing questionable sex toys in order to prove just exactly what they are made of. This takes $$- even small donations will help and you can even receive incentives like t-shirts and discount codes!!!
My post goes up on May 27th. Until then you can find the list of links to other posts from participating bloggers at
Below is what I know is not a silicone product - yet is advertised on every website I've found the cockrings in question on as "Silicone Island Cock Rings". Come read my story about it on May 27th!! And thankyou for all being patient with how long it has taken me to get this site going- not there yet but your support helps greatly! 

Wednesday, 8 May 2013

TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesday: May 7, 2013
This week’s TMI Tuesday celebrates one of my favorite hobbies…masturbation.
Masturbation Month 2013

1. My favorite place to masturbate is _

My bed. Boring I know, but true cause that's where all the toys are!!

2. Have you ever masturbated in public? What were the circumstances?

Yes sad but funny. Years ago I was homeless and working the street. Part of sex work on the street is not making yourself more vulnerable by having orgasms at work, so I spent a lot of time telling my body that it wasn't allowed to enjoy itself, needless to say my mind didn't enjoy any of it. Anyway, long story short, after days (I rarely slept) of sex I couldn't enjoy and an over active limbic system I would find myself seriously horny and if the one person I trusted- my boyfriend at the time, wasn't around I did what needed to be done- quickly ducked into an alley, pulled down my pants and furiously frigged. Honestly it took about 15 seconds to get relief! Good times! Lol

3. Do you like mutual masturbation? Why?

Hell ya! Can I say I do it for a living? I even wrote an article online about it because I wanted to promote it as an alternative to intercourse. Whether you and/or your partner are a virgin or you are on your period or have other reasons for not wanting penetration, or are looking for variety , I think it's damn sexy and super fun. Both partners get a chance to see exactly what each other likes- which is especially handy when no matter what technique or speed you use your SO has a habit of answering "just like that, you are doing great". Others have expressed that they find mm more intimate than other acts- which I get if you are shy about masturbating but I love it.

4. When was the last time you masturbated?

This morning

5. Have you ever masturbated on camera?


6. Do you like to watch people masturbate?

YES!!!! as long as they enjoy being watched of course.

Bonus: Have you filmed yourself masturbating? Care to share that film via a link?

Yes not sure if this is a different question than the camera one but I'm not ready to share it by link, not without some level of anonymity more than my middle name (Sangsara)

Do you want to become part of TMI Tuesday? Do so or at least read more of the entries at http://tmituesdayblog.wordpress.com